Tuesday, April 28, 2015

Inhale with Gratitude

A few years ago I was at a spin class the night before Thanksgiving.  The instructor opened the class with this line, "Inhale with gratitude."  To this day, it remains one of my favorite quotes.


We all have something to be thankful for.  Even in the worst of times, there is something... for all of us.  For those who may be in the pit of despair, it still exists.  It is just hiding, but if you can hold on long enough, it will reveal itself and hopefully comfort you, especially when you realize its been there the whole time.  For those who may be walking on cloud nine, it is easy to lose track of your blessings.  It's easy to take things for granted. Those who find themselves in this position can be blinded from the same true blessings as those in despair.  It's so important to look at ourselves and our lives with clear and honest eyes and "inhale with gratitude."

When you realize what you have, it is easier to realize who you are and where you'd like to go.  When I think about my short list of my gratitudes, it really is my foundation.  They sit right at the core of who I am.  When I began my first blog three years ago, I did so for therapeutic reasons.  It was just months after Dale died and I was rather lost.  My very first post was (unconsciously) about the blessings that I did have in my life and it set the pace for what I believe to have been an extraordinary 3 years.

Here is my short-list, the 5 things that I am most thankful for...

1.  My son....  No words can do justice for what he means.  <3
2.  My family... My close friends are considered family too.
3.  My health... Good health is what I wish for anyone and everyone more so than anything else, even happiness.

I feel those top 3 are probably close to most people's top three (with children ;)).  My last two are more personal and unique to me.

4.  My independence...  I need to feel like I can breathe and to be able to make choices for myself.  I am very grateful for having been able to not only financially, but to mentally be able to take care of myself and my son on my own.  We were able to maintain our home and our lifestyle despite everything else in our lives changing.

My last one.  It's tough to narrow it down into five (I've actually had to think on this one a bit).  But last but not least...

5.  Second chances... Sometimes we don't get a second chance.   But when we do, we need to learn from our mistakes, from our experiences, trust ourselves and our guts and make it count!

What are you most thankful for?  Please comment and share.  I'd love to hear them!

Thursday, April 23, 2015

Welcome!

After sharing this new blog on Facebook (what did we ever do before FB!?!), I now consider it officially launched!  I have to admit that I am equally excited and terrified at the same time.  I'm excited to share thoughts, ideas, articles, and many other positive and inspiring words and stories that I come across with all of you.  I am hopeful that there will be a following on this blog, a community in which we can share and communicate from all walks of life, across states, even countries.  But I am also terrified.  I'm terrified in sharing such personal details about my own life mainly because of that innate need to protect my son.  There is much that he is not aware of because he is so very young and if I could, I would protect him from any and all hurtful truths and experiences that he can and will encounter throughout his life.  Since I am fully aware that is impossible, I instead feel the need to control what can be controlled.  This blog is releasing some of that control and it is scary.  I'm choosing to do this to help raise awareness, to let go and put faith in humanity, and to step outside of that comfort zone with fingers crossed that this decision will lead to something never expected and entirely worth it!  A friend shared this quote just yesterday, and I couldn't think of a better time or place to share it (thanks Melissa!).




Sunday, April 19, 2015

Choose Beautiful

I have to say,  I do love the Dove campaigns and their messages.  If you haven't seen it yet, check out this latest video.  "The power of choice is in your hands..."


What door would you walk through?

Friday, April 17, 2015

Hope for All


I did it...  I created a donation page with the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention in memory of Dale.  It wasn't an easy thing to do and the write-up felt almost like writing his obituary once again.  But I am happy with the words that I chose and I am even more happy that I have finally done something in his memory in hopes of serving a greater purpose.

I am attaching a link to the page on this blog to track my progress in reaching my goal of $500.  I am not sure how this Lemongrass Spa business is going to go for me, so to begin, I am will be donating 10% of what I earn.  Ideally, I'd like to donate more and hopefully I will be able to do so.

Even though this donation page was made mainly for me to track my donations through my sales, it is open to anyone and everyone who would like to donate any amount of money to this foundation.  I will still keep my goal of $500 regardless if it is surpassed by the generous donation of others.

I'd like to extend a warm "thank you" to anyone who has been touched in some way and has decided to donate.  Thank you truly.

"Hope for all," because hope is something we can never lose.  Here is a link to my page...
http://afsp.donordrive.com/campaign/hopeforall





Monday, April 13, 2015

It Has Arrived!



It has arrived!  My Lemongrass Spa Consultant Kit arrived in the mail today!  I was so excited to get it and to try all of the different products, yet it is already 10:45 pm and I still have yet to take a close look at most of them.

I missed my deadline to invite people to my launching party by one day, so I was busy taking photographs (lol... living the dream) like the one seen above and creating an "Event" page on Facebook so that I could get the invitations out to everyone.  My big day is April 25th and then again on May 3rd. My apartment is only so big and there is a limit as to how many people I can comfortably accommodate, so I invited a big group of people and am letting them choose with the hope that the attendance will be balanced.

This past week, which is essentially my first week in the business world has been rather fun.  I launched my Facebook page and am 4 shy of hitting my first milestone of 50 Likes.  I just sent out invitations to my launching parties too.  I've also been planning and purchasing items that I think will make my spa parties seem professional and classy.  I bought some trial sized containers and little mesh bags to create free take-homes.  I have also bought towels and little soaking tubs for mini-pedicures.  I even bought some small decor like a lemongrass candle, a wicker basket, and lemons... just to help create a relaxing ambiance.

I have always wanted business cards and I am looking forward to designing and creating my own business card.  That is probably my next big to-do.  Well, right after making an order with Lemongrass for both myself (yay!) and for my parties!  I also hope to launch this blog by the end of this week as well.  The only thing that I want to have in place before launching  (sharing on Facebook) is my donation page for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.  That is an important piece for the inspiration behind all that I am doing and it needs to be there before I begin to share this blog with others.

What I have learned so far is that I need to be organized and I need to set dates and time lines for myself.  I am not sure how things will change once things start to develop and more sales occur.  I imagine I will need to continue to be organized as well.  I know that is a skill that I helps me as a teacher too.  I also know that I will not publish many posts such as this one.  Today I am just blabbing away, but I am doing that because I am excited!  We all need something that stirs things up for ourselves and makes us happy.

I just changed my Facebook profile image and it seems very fitting to share here to end this post.  I whole-heartedly believe this...












Sunday, April 12, 2015

Coming Together

An idea occurred to me two years ago when I was living and taking care of my son on my own.  That idea was to create some form of "business" to help generate some extra income.  I was lucky enough to have a reliable job in teaching, but living in New York City and with all of the extra expenses in having a child, money was very tight.  I thought about what came most natural to me, and that was teaching.  I thought about what part of that I was most passionate about, and that was writing (curriculum).  So, that is what I focused on.  I looked for free-lance writing jobs that I could do from home, but never found anything that seemed to fit.  I found some interesting part-time jobs, but I would need to pay a sitter (which would defeat the whole purpose) so I passed on those.  I realized that the best scenario would be for me to be my own boss and that sounded like such a wonderful, invigorating idea!  What would I offer?  Lesson plans that aligned with the newly released Common Core Standards.  I read up on how to create my own website and I began to rewrite old lessons and create new ones worthy of selling to other teachers.  It didn't take long before I just became... uninspired.  I was redoing what I already did and do and it just didn't stimulate my mind.  Deep down, I was looking for something new, something different, but I had no idea what that was, so this desire became dormant.

I've had some thoughts come to me in the past couple of years.  I've wondered if I should use my love for writing to write a book based on my experiences.  But I wasn't sure what my angle would be.  What would be it's true purpose and whom would it be written for (audience)?  The thought was fascinating, but the reality was uncomfortable.  I started to dabble into photography.  I got a new camera and even took some classes.  It's fun and I plan on pursuing this even more, but... I didn't see it becoming the kind of purpose that I was searching for.  So it took me completely by surprise when what I was looking for was found in a place I never, ever would have envisioned for myself.

A couple of weeks ago I was invited to a skin care “party.”  A friend that I used to work with was venturing into this business and I went to support her.  I was completely taken aback when the business angle that the ladies pitched actually appealed to me.  Another friend, whom I brought, was also quite persuasive encouraging “us” to go into business together.  So, I thought about it, so much so that I began to do research on the company.  It was in the midst of my research that I stumbled across Lemongrass Spa.  Lemongrass Spa is a small company and one that I had never heard of before.  But as I read more and more about it, ideas started to grow and oddly enough, becoming a natural skin care consultant seemed to be the piece that linked everything together.

I am not one who is very much into skin care and makeup.  Yes, I use both, but my skin care regiment usually consists of washing my face with regular bar soap with an occasional eye cream application.  I do wear makeup, but am not very good at applying it.  I’ve sought help with a Sephora consultant once and bought a whole lot of makeup from her.  However, I found that I replaced most of it with pharmacy offered makeup lines, my usual.  I am also not one who pays much attention to organic and gluten-free products or even natural cleaning products for that matter.  However, all of these things that are not so much me, are what appeal to me most about Lemongrass.  So, I decided to give it a try.  I bought some products, and I loved them!  Their scent is fresh and natural.  They feel fresh and clean too!  Perhaps it is more psychological than anything, but using their products makes me feel healthier too, like I am taking better care of my body more for choosing to put chemical and toxic free products onto my skin.  Not only that, but I have found that I am paying attention more to other products that I am buying, like environmentally safer cleaning products, even tree-free toilet paper!  

So, I decided to step outside of my knowledge base and my comfort zone to become a Lemongrass Spa consultant.  After thorough research, this is a company that I feel comfortable stepping outside of my box for.  I am not a sales person by nature and this will be the most difficult aspect of this new endeavor for me.  But believing in the products that I will be selling and the integrity of the company will make it easier.  

However, one thing that I am painfully aware of is how what matters most is the way that one feels on the inside.  That is where this blog comes into place.  This is where I can use my love of writing to serve a purpose and hopefully one that matters and can make a difference in someone else’s life.  I also learned though, after finding my own self and learning to love my self again during these past few years, is that how you do look on the outside does matter too.  It is a reflection of how one feels about themselves on the inside.  It is important to take care of your body on the outside… that includes loving the skin you're in, literally.  Promoting natural products seems more authentic to me rather than promoting products full of chemicals and toxins.  


Everything has seemingly come together.  I am now my own boss.  I can use my writing for a greater purpose.  I can even use my own photography :).  The best part in it taking more than two years for it to all come together is that I am no longer a single mom taking care of my son on my own.  (I have an amazing boyfriend who is completely supportive of me in all that I do.)  And my desire to do this is no longer based on finding a way to produce more income.  I am doing this in hopes of being able to help others.  I am doing this to feel what it is like to be in the business world, since I won’t ever leave my job as a teacher.  I am doing this for fun and to try something completely new to expand myself.  I am also doing this so that I can donate a portion of what I do earn to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.  As the 4 year mark of my husband’s own death quickly approaches, I am happy to have finally found a way to honor his memory and to give to an agency with the hope of being able to help prevent the tragedy of someone else taking their own life and the devastation that leaves behind.