The BIG Three

No, no, no... I am not making a This is Us reference.  I am referring to this year's list of "To Do's" before I turn 40.  (Is she still talking about that?  Yes, yes I am!  lol) 

It was about this exact time of year last year when I found out I was picked in the lottery I entered to run the NYC Half-Marathon.  When the reality hit me that I voluntarily signed up to run 13.1 miles, which would take me hours, that's when the idea to create a "To Do" list emerged.

Number 1
So, yes I did run that 1/2 marathon, the day after St. Patrick's Day (One day I will join my Irish hubby and celebrate, this past March was not the year, lol).   And... I kicked ass!!!  I finished that race in 2 hours and wait for it... 22 lousy seconds!!!  UGH!!!  I didn't know.  My watch, the last leg where they posted  meters instead of miles.... I was confused.  Had I known I was SO SO close to that 2 hour mark, I think I could have pushed it to finish under 2 hours, like 1:59:59.  LOL   One thing I do know, I will never run the NYC Half again.  I know I will want to beat that time.  But that is a time I am already very proud of and yes, I'll admit, I am not sure if I can beat it.  So I am going to take it happily and walk away.

P.S.  My goal is to run atleast one half marathon a year.  I am aiming to get into the Brooklyn Half this year!


Number 2
My number two just recently arrived to my in a little black book.  😏  A boudoir session seemed like a necessity to capture me in my last few months in my 30s.  I had always wanted to do it and it was so much fun!  My photographer was awesome (and a high school friend).  I highly recommend it to anyone and everyone.  I actually took it at the end of June... I didn't have a summer glow and I wasn't in the best shape.  (I kinda took a 3 month vacation from consistently working out after that half marathon, lol).  But, that was my moment and I am so happy for taking that plunge, in a completely different way than Number 1.

I loved adding accessories!  So much fun!!

P.S.  I plan on doing another session in a couple of years.  I so want my forty something body to kick my 39 year old body's booty!


Number 3
I had a really, really hard time coming up with a third item.  But I felt like there needed to be atleast 3 things.  I didn't want to jump out of a plane, no desire.  I already have tattoos.  So.... I decided to take on an 80 day workout program, The 80 Day Obsession.  I started the day after my son's birthday, September 9 and figured I would end at the end of November.  Well... I didn't take into consideration that its actually 80 days of working out and that one day off a week wasn't counted into that number.  So instead of already being done with the program, I will finish it Saturday, the day before my birthday.  I couldn't have planned it any better, or worse.  Fortunately, I have been healthy for 80+ days and didn't miss a single workout.  The only thing I did was replace a cardio workout with a run a bunch of times to help me train for a few 5Ks I ran during this time.

How do I feel?  I LOVE this program honestly.  After just a couple of weeks, that layer of fat that I felt I was surrounded in seemed to dissipate.  I am leaner and stronger!  I took the diet part in the first month seriously and it went down hill from there, oops.  BUT, working out everyday is no longer a chore I dread.  Its' become part of my nightly routine.  So next week, I plan on continuing to exercise.  If I take too much time off, it will be just like starting all over again and I don't want that.  I am going to relax with some yoga for a week or two and then move on to a more intense program.

In case you are wondering, I workout from home and use Beachbody On Demand.  I love Autumn Calabrese.  I thought I'd hate her and her rock hard ab body, but I don't.  She makes the workouts enjoyable.


So, there you have it.  My Big Three!  It was nothing crazy.   Maybe a bit lame to some.  But all 3 pushed me outside of my comfort zone and towards something that I have never done, but wanted.  I feel healthy and accomplished.  And I am building upon all three in this upcoming year in my new decade.

What about you?  Have you ever had a bucket list of any kind?  I'd love to hear, please share!!!

Ohh Emm Gee... I'm Basically 40!!!

To be honest, I am kind of relieved at this point.  In 5 days, my two years of counting down will finally be over!  That's right, I have been dreading turning the big 4-0 for a long time now and it's so close now, so why not?

Hello, my name is Amy and I am forty years old. 

😂😂😪😪😂😂

Okay, so I am more at peace with this than I was, but to work out the remaining kinks and tribulations, I am going back to what helps me best, writing.  I cannot believe that the last time I posted here was in January!!!  SO much has happened.  SO much.  Coming back to this blog now, so close to the end of 2018 is like a reflection of my whole year.  And what a doozy it was.  But, let's get back to my turning 40.  

So if I celebrated my birthday with my family and friends already, I can't claim my thirties anymore can I?  I guess that's okay because I had an amazing, amazing SURPRISE birthday brunch!!!  Who throws a surprise birthday brunch, my hubby... who happens to know that brunch is my favorite meal of the day.  Too bad it's not a daily occurrence.

But since my party was so awesome and pretty much made it okay to turn 40, I am going to share that story with you all.  😉  Saturday, I ran a Jingle Bell 5K (the same one that one year ago jump started my love-hate relationship with running) with a group of friends from work.  We all met at my apartment since I live across the street from the park that the jog took place in.  We had previously planned on going out to brunch afterwards, but the race day plan found only one runner joining me with another friend who wasn't in the race for brunch a couple of hours after the race.  That didn't make me scratch my head at all though.  LOL

My runner friend suggested we go back to my place after the race to freshen up for our ladies lunch date.  The fact that my husband was awake, showered, dressed and out the door on a Saturday with our son before I got back (it was still the morning) didn't make me scratch my head either.  LOL  I did notice that my friend had a really nice outfit to wear and I thought, "Damn she is being fancy for a hipster joint."  LOL  And I proceeded to pick out an old sweater, jeans, and worn out boots.  I put together an outfit I had never worn before and never will because it was just, eh.   Thank God I put on a necklace.  LOL  She insisted on driving and we were off!

After circling the joint for a while, hello parking in Brooklyn on an Saturday afternoon, we finally found a spot and were about 10 minutes late joining our friend, who miraculously arrived early.  That should have made me scratch me head, LOL, she is never early.  Well, as we proceeded to walk up the stairs (me first as insisted upon by my friend) to the party room, which I was fully aware of since I checked this place out for my son's communion party, 🙈, I got about half-way up and stopped.  Not because it finally hit me, LOL, no, no, no..  Because I thought we were interrupting someone else's party!!!

Well, the first people I saw were my sister and my niece who live 8 hours away!  That's when it FINALLY  hit me!!!  Duh!  

My husband had orchestrated a surprise birthday brunch party a week before my actual birthday with the help of those two awesome friends.  My parents, my brother and sister and their families were all there!!!  They drove 8 hours from Buffalo to spend a day with me.  😅 My in-laws were there as were my closest work friends.  I was absolutely surprised and absolutely touched.  It is not often that the people I care about most are all in the same room together.  That's a downfall for not living close to family.  So when they all are (and it's not a funeral) it is amazingly awesome... as is my husband.  💖💝  He got me good.  They all did!  The effort, the thoughtfulness, the smiles... they all made me feel so special and loved.  

I don't think I'd mind turned 40 again.  In fact, every year after this one, I am absolutely positive I will forever feel that way!  LOL  

The Solace in Running

First off, let me just say that I am not a runner.  In my entire adulthood (let's call it 20 years), I have gone for a run when I was extremely bored with any other type of workout, when I had brief inspirations of wanting to be a runner, or just to check-in on my fitness level every so often just to see if I could still run x amount of miles in x amount of time like I was able to x years before.

This past summer I ran my first 5K just for the fun of it and just because I knew that I could do it without little to no training.  What I found was that the whole race experience was really cool and added some flavor to just running on my own.  I liked it so much that I decided to sign up for a Jingle Bells 5K Run in December, which was even more fun (and festive)!  Again, I knew that I could run a 5K without any training, especially since my goal was just to simply complete the race and to do it in under 30 minutes (since I know that I am capable of that too).  I placed no pressure or exertion on myself other than having to wake up and run first thing in the morning and the risk of poor weather.  (P.S.  It was in the 40's for the Jingle Bell Run!!!  A perfect running day!!!)

Fast forward two months... I am in the midst of training for a half-marathon!!!  I turned 39 in December and quite honestly, I am having some issues with turning the big 4-0.  So back in December, I signed up for the NYC Half Marathon Lottery with the intention of doing something big before I turned forty and also knowing in the back of my head that I wouldn't get picked.  Well... I did get picked.   And I didn't know if I should have cheered or cried when I got that e-mail.  I think I did both, lol.

I immediately found a training program to follow (Hal Higdon's) and I just finished week 6 of my training.   What does week 6 of half marathon for the beginner entail?  Well, my two short runs for the week were 4 miles and my long run was 6 miles.  I did my long run yesterday and it was a gorgeous 50 degree sunny day.  I've been lucky, the weekend before was mild for a NYC January and I ended up running 6.5 miles instead of the 6.  So yesterday I had to push myself further and I ended up running 6.75 miles in just over 62 minutes!  For the first time ever, I ran two laps inside of Prospect Park in Brooklyn!

It's taken 6 weeks to for me to run just half of what I will do in exactly 8 weeks from today!  When I look at it that way it seems daunting.  However, if I look at how my ability to run long distance has tremendously improved in only 6 weeks, I am amazed.  The thought of running 4 miles before was uncomfortable, but doable.  Anything beyond that was just crazy talk!  But now, those distances are becoming my short runs!!

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The solace in running...

Despite the option of having running partner(s), running is essentially a solo sport.  I am a lone trainer and along with finding triumph in achieving my weekly goals, I have also found solace in running.  

I am running 45-60+ minutes each time I go out for a run now.  That's a lot of alone time with nothing other than myself and my thoughts.  What do I think about when I run?  Honestly, I am so focused on what I need to do that I am not daydreaming or stressing about what I should or could or need to be doing... I am truly in the moment.  (Last year at this time I was taking a mindful mediation class to me refocus and find that in the moment appreciation and living.  Who knew I just needed to go for a run, a long run!)

As I said in the opening, I am not a runner.  Even now, I am still not a runner.  I am a woman with a goal in mind.  If I continue to run after that half-marathon, then maybe I will consider myself a runner, but until then, I am not.  So, because I am not a runner and it doesn't come naturally to me, the majority of my thoughts while running are "keep going," "you got this," "one foot in front of the other," "just keep going," and "you're almost done!"  LOL... it's all motivational.  I have too, otherwise I don't think I would ever make it.  So essentially, I am telling myself nothing but positive, uplifting, and motivational things for an hour straight!!  Do you know how awesome that is?!?!?  

I've also learned to listen to my body.  I listen to my breathing.  I listen to my heartbeat.  I listen to the tightness in my legs or the soreness in my feet.  I have to pay attention to what my body is telling me.  (Our bodies are so smart and they communicate too, we just need to pay attention and listen.)  When I hit that wall and I want to quit... I ask myself do I want to quit because I am feeling out of breath and I might faint?  Do I want to quit because I am not in the mood to run?  Or do I just need to bust through this wall knowing that I will feel better in just a few minutes?  (I'll only stop for the first one.)  Sometimes my legs tighten up and I pay attention to that too.  Can I wiggle it out between steps?  Is it loosening up with each step?  Or do I need to pull over and stretch out?  I never used to think it was okay to stop before (like I was cheating or wimping out) but now, if I need to stretch out that hamstring or anything else, without hesitation I will.  

I'm so busy listening and talking to myself (LOL... weirdo) that I don't run with headphones anymore.  I never thought that was possible!  I realized I didn't need them when one day I went out for a run and about 30 minutes later I realized that my iPod was on repeat and I had been listening to the same song for about 3 miles.  Yah, LOL.  So in between the "conversations" that I am having with myself, I enjoy the sounds of nature that I take in for brief moments more so than parts of a song from my play list.  

So just in case you don't think that I am weird enough, sometimes I have a "This is Us" moment while running.  Sometimes I pep talk myself so much, that I get emotional.  Yes, I have teared up while running.  It's such an awesome feeling when you accomplish something that you hate and especially when the process is so focused and so entirely you.  I just hope that I use up the tears that well up when I think about crossing that half marathon finish line so that I when I actually do, I'll only look like half of a hot mess.  

Does anyone have any running stories or any experiences similar to this?  Please tell me I am not the only one!!!  

End of Summer Skincare Tips

Goals

It's been a long time since I've set a true goal for myself.  I'm talking about a goal that needs to be worked for.  One that takes planning, time, patience, hard work, determination, frustration, and then some more determination.  A goal that can be definitively measured, not one that is subjective.  It's been a very long time and now that I have actually set a goal for myself, I feel that it has been something that I have been missing in my life.  I am a person who is driven by purpose.  Don't get me wrong, I love to have fun but if given the choice... doing something for fun or doing something for a purpose, 8 out of 10 times, I'll choose purpose.

So as some of you know, I have this Lemongrass Spa "Business."   I joined and started it up in April of 2015 and in those 2.5 years, I have done very little with it.  I honestly love the products, I love learning about them (and "science" behind natural skincare products and essential oils) and I love sharing them with people the small group of people that that I have comfortably gathered as customers.

I didn't start up this business for the money.  I didn't start it because I knew someone else who was a consultant (I still have yet to personally meet a fellow LGS sister).  I started it with no goal or end game in mind other than I wanted to try something different, something out of my comfort zone.  Over the course of the past two and half years, I have stepped out of my comfort zone (a tiny bit), but because I am not driven by any purpose, I can pull back whenever I want too.  This lack of purpose has also turned my "business" into more of a hobby of mine, because I do it purely for fun.  However, I don't do fun well.  Wait... that didn't come out right, lol.

What I mean is that I have a lot of fun creating graphics, growing my knowledge about the company and our products, and sharing it all on Facebook... but that fun isn't leading to anything significant.  Spending the amount of time that I do to do all of that, even though it's completely by my choice and I do enjoy it, has an empty purpose.

I do have a very small group of loyal customers whom are fantastic!  I love that they love Lemongrass Spa products and that I introduced something healthy into their lives.  That is very rewarding.  I also love that the majority of products in my home are Lemongrass Spa and that very little out of pocket money goes into that.  But I want more.  It's time to step out of the comfort zone, in more ways that one, and give myself a goal to work towards besides funding my own personal skincare products.

So my goal {drum roll}... is to donate $1000 from money I earn from my Lemongrass Biz to various charities over the course of 1 year.  In order to do this, that means that I will need to sell atleast $4000 in products in 1 year.  Now if any of you readers are direct sales peeps, that may not sound like a whole lot to you, but just to put it into perspective for me, I only sold $2500 worth in volume last year.  So I need to step up my game and sell atleast (not yet taking into consideration discounts, supplies, etc. that I will need to pay for) 60% more.   So I feel that $1000 is a goal that I can reach, not easily, but it's doable, if I put extra effort and drive into making it happen.  That is something that I look forward to doing.

So many people that I have seen thrive in direct sales is because they are looking for freedom... career wise and money wise.  It has been very hard for me to sell the business side of Lemongrass to others (no recruits here) because I am not driven by either.  I am fortunate enough that (although I have complaints) I love being a teacher and although there are time restraints, I feel equally fortunate that I have been able to have the best of both worlds, a good paying job with benefits and time to spend with my son and not feel like I missed out of anything by being at work and not at home.  Now I am driven by money... money that I hope can make an impact for others and $1000 is a good amount of money to do just that.

So... does anyone have any charities to suggest?  National, local, personal... I have some of my own in mind, but I am open to any and all.  

Truth

Baby vs. Puppy

I've always been fascinated (and jealous) with women who know exactly how many children they want or don't want.  I'm sure it doesn't help make it any easier when their youngest outgrows those tiny little onesies and it's time to not repack them for the next, but to give them away.  But, at the same time, it must be a comfort and relief to know that you were able to make the decision yourself and to be at peace with it.

About 5 years ago I put a number (age) in my head to give myself an endpoint for having children.  I wasn't even dating anyone at the time, and I certainly hadn't met John.  But, it was a decision that I made just for me and I was completely comfortable with.  I was open to the fact that circumstances may change that number a bit, but it gave me a mental ballpark to help "prepare" me for the fact that I was getting older and for both safety and selfish reasons, it would be in my best interest to just be done.

When I made this decision 5 years ago, I had wanted another child.  Ewan was just shy of 3 and even though there wasn't anyone in my life at that moment, I felt that both Ewan and I were young enough where welcoming another child into our lives within the next few years would be wonderful.  The desire for another child even made me pass over some potential dates (online dating) just for the fact that they already had a heap load of children.  It's not that I am anti-children (I'm a teacher!), but I have seen first hand how tricky it can be to manage a handful of children from blended families.  From organizing schedules for visiting the other parent to finding room (NYC apartment living is tight), I closed myself up from those situations... because I could.  I was not in a hurry to meet someone, let alone marry again, so I could "afford" to be picky.

And then I met John.  He had never been married.  He didn't have any children.  Perfect!  Except for the fact that he did not want children.  That was a possibility that I had never considered and by the time we had reached that point in conversation, it was too late.  John was the one and his not wanting a child was not a deal breaker, although I had hope that he would change his mind still knowing that there was a strong possibility that he may not.  That is what caused me to really think and re-evaluate what I wanted and it was a struggle.

My struggle was accepting that fact that deep down, I was really at 50-50 with wanting another child. That's worse than any other ration because it's a deadlock.  A limbo, and I hate being in limbo.

Even though time was ticking, we had other milestone to reach first...  John and Ewan had to establish their relationship, we moved in together, we planned a wedding.  Our wedding led us right up to my number.  The number I had told myself 5 years ago was 38.  I have about 3 month left at being that age and I have not encountered any circumstances that justifies altering that number.

John still does not want another child.  Deep down, I am certain that if I told him that I wanted one, it would happen.  However, in the nearly 4 years that I have known him, I have never told him that.  As my window quickly approaches closure, what I have learned about myself is that I am okay with having just one child.  I have been all along, my fear was regret.  Not regret after 38, but regret later in life, when I am in my forties or fifties and beyond when the possibility for another child is completely out of my control.   Finding peace with my future self was a major part of the struggle because you just don't know.  But I do know 2 things...

1.  I just spent a week with a 1 year old and a puppy.  And at the end of the day, everyday to be exact, I wanted to leave with the puppy!

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2.  Life has taught me that if you make what you feel to be the best decision at any given moment, then you have nothing to regret in the future.

So there you have it, Ewan is my one and only and he is perfect for the job!

What's your story?  How did you decide?

John doesn't want a dog either... but as soon as we are out of this apartment, it will happen!!

Ten

There are certain dates, milestones, and years that stand out more than others.  For biblical, mathematical, and sentimental reasons, 10 is one of those numbers.

For me, 10 marks the number of years that I have now lived in New York City.  Not including my hometown, I have lived in NYC longer than any other place (and I have moved often, or atleast I used to).  It's tough to describe New York City.  It's busy, fast, noisy, tough... it can be your worst nightmare.  But in the midst of all the craziness of this city you can also find peace, kindness, opportunities...  it can be your best friend.

10 years ago I moved to NYC from Virginia.  There really was no particular reason to move to NYC, it was more of a why not?  The why not was a strong pull though.  It required the selling of a house and a car and multiple yard sales and still having to move a quarter of my possessions into a storage unit because you can't fit a 2000 square foot home with land into a 1200 square foot apartment with a terrace.

In these 10 years, NYC has been both my worst nightmare and my best friend.  And if I could go back in time and make the decision to move here or not all over again, I am not sure what I would choose.  What I am sure of is that NYC would never have become my best friend if it had not allowed my greatest nightmare to come first.

Much of my story could have been written and shared 4 years ago.  At that time, it seemed to me that it was a good ending place.  But, did you know that the number 10 symbolizes the completion of a cycle?  And waiting to look back on my life over the past 10 years (rather than 6) makes such a remarkable difference.

10 years ago I did not move here alone as my single narration may have implied from above.  I moved here with a family.  Dale and I had been married for nearly 5 years, we had 2 dogs (Argyle and Skye), and I was about 10 weeks pregnant when we moved into our Brooklyn apartment.  Little did we I know, we I actually stepped onto a rollercoaster...

We never found out if it was the stress of the move or if it was genetic, or just not meant to be, but we had a miscarriage two weeks after moving here.  Two years later though, we were blessed with Ewan. Ewan was only 20 months old when Dale left us.  His death was unfathomable and it left Ewan and myself in a city with no family and really no friends.  Yet, I chose to stay.  More than a rational explanation, I stayed on a gut feeling.  A year after Dale's death, our older dog Argyle died.  He wasn't old, he had a tumor that ruptured and had to be put down.  Less than a year later, our other dog Skye became ill as well.  Sadly, she was put down on the same day that my grandmother passed away.

Hopefully both pet lovers and not can understand how a pet becomes not only a part of your family, but they are actually a member.  Dale and I weren't certain that we wanted children and for 8 years prior to having Ewan, those dogs took the place of a human child.  They were our companions that moved from place to place with us and were a part of our adventures, our lives.  So when Skye died in 2013, she marked the end of an era.  Six years after moving to NYC, I was the only one left of the original five.  I had with me the most important addition to our family, but as a baby of only 20 months, he knew very little of the family that we I once had.

With the end of the era six years ago, if I would have stopped and written this story, it would have been one of only sadness and grief, with the only exception being Ewan.  But by letting the cycle run and sharing my tale of NYC at ten years, I have allowed so many more experiences, characters, and stories to be added on.  The main one being of course John, whom I did not meet until November of 2013.

It's funny how, if given the chance, the world balances itself out.  I can see that more clearly now, especially since I have given time and my life a chance to play out.  Although I don't believe that living in NYC helped, it was not the cause of my nightmare.  However, I do have NYC to thank for being a friend during the darkest times.  One thing that I was always sure of in those early days after Dale's death, was that everything that I needed was always right there... a home, a job, a therapist, a babysitter, a day care center, a friend, John, and now a new family.  I am even writing this post now while I should be packing for my  our honeymoon!  (We leave for Hawaii early tomorrow morning!)

So as this post ends and I move on into the 11th year (now as an official New Yorker, according to Carrie Bradshaw) of living in NYC, I cannot end it thinking that what started off as a tragic, sad, and depressing tale is ending on a happy note.  Because, my life has never been sad, tragic, or depressing. My life... is a life.  Life is full of ups and downs.  It is full of wonder and mystery.  It is full of hardships and heartaches.  It is full of all things amazing.  It is a cycle that does not end, until life itself is over.

So whether you look back on your life a week from now, a year, 10 years, or longer... the important thing is to enjoy the small moments in the every day of life because you just don't know how much time you or those around you will have.  10 years goes fast, but it is a long time and so much can happen.  I don't know what the next 10 years hold for me.  But I do know that that there will be sad goodbyes.  I know that there will be the ups and downs (of Ewan's teenage years).  I know there will be worry and confusion.  I know that there will be unbelievable joys and there will be awe.  I know that I don't want to miss a single moment.

Intro to Essential Oils

Last month, Lemongrass Spa offered an Essential Oil Safety Course with a licensed Aromatherapist.  It couldn't have come at a more perfect time since I had recently begun to make bracelets, many with a diffuser to add an essential oil to.  Admittedly over the past year, I had become more personally intrigued and curious about more natural ways to obtain and or maintain both physical and mental health.  The making of the bracelets and researching healing properties of the stones I select was one result of that.  Taking an 8 week course on Mindful Meditation was another.  Needless to say, I took this Essential Oil Safety Class as well... and I just "graduated!"

I am not a guru at this point by any means.  I am not a mixologist either.  But I do have a fundamental base knowledge for understanding what properties different oils have, how best to use them, and most importantly how to use them safely.

I thought what better way to celebrate my completion of this course than to create a Lemongrass Bag based on an essential oil.  So without further adieu, let me introduce to you The August Lemongrass Bag(s)...

Yes, this month, there are 3 Lemongrass Bags to choose from with 3 different price points.  I'll go through each product and give a description on how to use each one.

Organic Lemon Essential Oil:  With each of the 3 bags, I will include some recipes that you can easily make at home.  Cleaning products, air fresheners, etc.  Lemon is a great EO and carries such a clean, uplifting aroma.  Here are some other important things to know...

I do NOT recommend ingesting essential oils of any kind.  

Wool Dryer Ball:  Soften your clothes and reduce wrinkles with a wood dryer ball.  Better yet, add an EO to give a fresh scent at the same time!  Each bag will contain 1 dryer ball.

Personal Inhaler:  The quickest way to get an essential oil into your system is through inhalation.  Steam is the quickest (and I can share more about that if you want) and a personal inhaler is second.  With a personal inhaler, you can plug one nostril and bring the inhaler right up to the other and take in a deep breath.  You can do this up to 3 times.  (I will share a video on how to use this particular inhaler and how to load it up.)  I just started to use this inhaler and I love it.  Each of the 3 bags comes with a personal inhaler and I have 3 colors to choose from...

Teal, Mink, or Black

Lemon Bath Bomb:  After trying a few different recipes, I have finally found a bath bomb that I love.  Because it features Lemon EO, I thought that coconut oil would be a nice summertime partner.  Epson salts are a great stress and inflammatory reliever and the citric acids adds a fun fizz!  Each bag contains one bath bomb as well.

Here's where it gets a bit different...

Bag A:  This bag contains all of the products above and a $5.00 Lemongrass Spa Gift Card.*  If you were to purchase these on their own, it would cost you more than $30... but you can get it from me for only $20 (shipping included).

Bag B:  This bag contains all of the products above PLUS a 2 oz. bottle of unscented Lemongrass Spa Hand & Body Lotion.  Why unscented?  So you can add your own EO oil to it and create a Lemon Lotion (BTW, we used to sell Lemon Lotion at LGS and it was fantastic!)  Be Careful! When you use Lemon EO topically, you have to be very careful not to "overdose."  For this 2 oz. bottle you can add up to 12 drops.  Once you hit 6, I would take it one at a time until you find the right amount for you.  Again, don't go above 12 drops!

This bag also comes with a $5.00 Lemongrass Spa Gift Card.*  If you were to purchase all of these products on their own, it would cost you more than $35... but you can get it from me for only $25 (shipping included).  :)

Bag C:  This bag contains all of the products from Bag A, PLUS a car diffuser.  Do you have a long commute in the morning?  Are you traveling during the summer?  A car diffuser may become your new best friend!  Lemon EO is uplifting and will help wake you up.  (Hint: If you have kids and want to calm them in the car, you may want to invest in Lavender EO.)

This bag also comes with a $5.00 Lemongrass Spa Gift Card.*  If you were to purchase all of these products on their own, it would cost you more than $40... but you can get it from me for only $30 (shipping included).




If you are not interested in any of these bags, but I have plucked some interest in the Lemon Essential Oil, it is on sale now for only $9.00 a bottle.

You can pair that with the car diffuser for only $18.

Lemongrass Spa does carry more than just Lemon EO, and you can check them all out by clicking on the link below.

http://www.ourlemongrassspa.com/AMYMARIE/content/Product_Catalog.aspx#lemongrass2017/page/34-35


**The Gift Cards do have an expiration date, September 30, 2017.


Resources:  Lea Harris, Certified Clinical Aromatherapist:  http://www.usingeossafely.com/

Tridacna

These tridacna bracelets are now some of my favorites!  The tridacna is etched beautifully and the contrast between the white and the other stones is classic and clean.  (Click onto the images for a clearer view.)

Add a couple of drops of an essential oil to the lave stone and take the scent with you all day!

Tridacna is a large saltwater clam, a giant actually.  Despite having a brightly colored mantle, tridacna is the "most white substance in the world."
http://www.zjoyfashions.com/news/white-tridacna-calm-shell-meaning-and-healing-properties-8612.html  

Tridacna:  Wearing tridacna can help enhance your magnetic field.  It can help to relieve annoyances, increase wisdom, and protect you from evil spirits (Buddhist belief).

Purple Titanium:  Titanium Quart is aka “The Stone of Universal Light."  Titanium (Flame) Aura allows for one to go deep into meditation to receive spiritual attunement. Overall this crystal is one that brings insight, compassion, energy, excitement and joy into life’s experiences.  
https://mycrystalpedia.wordpress.com/t/titanium-flame-aura-quartz/

Onyx:  Onyx is believed to help with the challenges in life.  It helps to get rid of unwanted energies that can drain you.  It's a root chakra.  It's the zodiac birthstone for Leos.  
http://meanings.crystalsandjewelry.com/onyx

Pink Amethyst:  It offers all of the qualities of amethyst (peace, warmth, and harmony) but also adds in love and tolerance.  Amethyst is a crown chakra.  It's a birthstone for February and a zodiac birthstone for Pisces.  
https://exemplore.com/healing/Pink-Amethyst-Meaning

Lava Stones:  Lava is known for grounding and calming emotions.  It comes from the core of the earth and is a Root Chakra.  Because of its unique and porous texture, it can be used as a natural diffuser.  Essential oils can easily be absorbed by the lava stones, allowing you to carry its scent with you all day.  


Fashion?
Meaning?
Charity?

Those are my 3 birds... which one are you?






Other Resources:  
https://www.gemrockauctions.com/learn/additional-gemstone-information/a-list-of-gemstone-birthstones-and-astrology

The Rebecca

Please click onto the image for a clearer view.

The Rebecca is the first bracelet that I have incorporated Lava Stones into and I am excited for the person who makes this one theirs!  As with all of my bracelets, a great deal of effort was put into the thought process of combining different stones not just for aesthetic purposes, but to build a collaboration of meaning behind them.

Lava Stones:  Lava is known for grounding and calming emotions.  It comes from the core of the earth and is a Root Chakra.  Because of its unique and porous texture, it can be used as a natural diffuser.  Essential oils can easily be absorbed by the lava stones, allowing you to carry its scent with you all day.  

Carnelian:  Carnelian is "known as a stone of motivation and endurance, leadership and courage."

It is also a stabilizing crystal to help improve concentration and creativity.  It's an energy booster. Orange Carnelian stimulates the Sacral Chakra.  It is the birthstone for August and for Virgos.  

Black Tourmaline:  It is known to be a protective stone; to protect one from negative energies including one's own thoughts and feelings and to protect one from environmental pollutants.  

It is grounding stone and a Base or Root Chakra.  It is also a Capricorn birthstone.

This bracelet may appeal to anyone who is looking to ground themselves and rid themselves of negativity to make room for creativity, confidence, and energy.  Depression.  

This bracelet can be worn with or without adding an essential oil to the lava stones.  Sweet Orange has a fresh and sweet scent.  It is great to use to uplift your mind and body.  *If using an EO, please add one drop at a time until you find the perfect amount for you.  Add the EO prior to wearing the bracelet and give it a few minutes to absorb so as to diminish the amount of contact the EO has on your skin.  

Please click onto the images for a clearer view.

Interested in the Sweet Orange Essential Oil?

http://www.ourlemongrassspa.com/AMYMARIE/content/Product_Catalog.aspx#lemongrass2017/page/34-35

Fashion?

Meaning?

Charity?

My 3 Birds... which one are you?

Resource:  https://www.crystalvaults.com/crystal-encyclopedia/crystal-guide

The Julia

Please click onto the image for a clearer viewing.

The Julia bracelet is one of my favorites.  I love it so much that for the first time, I made more than one of the same bracelet.  The only two differences are the length and the clasps, which you can see in the images below.

Rather than referring to each bracelet as an item number, I decided that I preferred to call them by a name.  As soon as I finished the first of the two, Julia immediately came to find.  Beautiful, classic, elegant... Julia.  

The Julia bracelet is made with tourmaline stones.  When I created these bracelets I did so not only with the intent of creating an attractive piece of jewelry that anyone would love, but did so with the meaning of the stones in mind.  

Black Tourmaline:  It is known to be a protective stone; to protect one from negative energies including one's own thoughts and feelings and to protect one from environmental pollutants.  

It is grounding stone and a Base or Root Chakra.  It is also a Capricorn birthstone.

Quartz Tourmaline:  The combination of clear quartz and black tourmaline is "believed to create the perfect polarity of energies." They compliment one another aesthetically and purposefully.  Clear Quartz is known as a healing stone.  It is a Crown Chakra.  Tourmilated Quartz is a Libra birthstone.  

These stones may appeal to anyone who is in need of mental clarity, stability, and a release of negative energies or depression.  

Fashion?

Meaning?

Charity?

My 3 Birds... which one are you?

P.S.  If the 7.25 inch doesn't go by Monday... I have a meditation class and it's all mine.  ;)

Please click onto images for a clearer view.

Resource:  https://www.crystalvaults.com/crystal-encyclopedia/quartz

My New Adventure

I'm super excited to introduce to you a little project that I have been working on!  I've been antsy lately, looking for something more to do.  It's not that I am not busy, but I've been looking for something more fulfilling to do with my spare time outside of being a mother, wife, and teacher.  So I thought about the things that I love... photography, nature, pieces of positivity... and I thought about the things that I am intrigued by... health and natural products.  So I did some research.  I did some shopping.  And what I came up with was...

Each piece was carefully created with particular stones to promote a more vibrant well-being.  Some have a diffuser charm which can be used for adding essential oils that you can carry with you all day long.  Some have lava stones, which are also great carriers for essential oils.  Some have larger stones that can be used as a worry stone to help ease angst and stress.  The stones themselves also have meaning and healing elements to them.  Amethyst, tourmaline, quartz, carenelian, ametrine, tiger's eye, and titanium are just a few of the stones that I have started to work with.  

I am not a doctor and am not promoting my bracelets to cure any one's illnesses.  However, I personally am intrigued by the connection that we have with nature.  I am intrigued by the beliefs and practices that can be more commonly found in the eastern cultures.  I am also intrigued by the power of the mind and positivity.  Wouldn't it be great if rubbing the quartz stone on a bracelet during a long meeting helped to alleviate anxiety?  Or the lavender essential oil in the diffuser on your bracelet helped to calm you during a hectic day?  Or the tourmaline and the magnets in your bracelet helped to ground you?  But if nothing else... you have a handmade, unique, and fashionable accessory!

My goal, to create a piece of jewelry that does make a statement, 3 actually.  

1.  Fashionable

2.  Meaningful

3.  Charitable

Did I mention that 75% of the profits will go to various charities?  :)

So... what do you think?  Please give me any feedback and opinions on any of the bracelets you see above!  

💜

Call Me Mrs. Vein

Confession:  I had a cosmetic procedure done yesterday.  😲

Face lift?  Tummy tuck?  Breast implants?  Nah... there's actually a limit to what I am willing to do. However, when the opportunity was given to me to to have a simple procedure done to zap away my spider veins, I took it.

I've been growing my little garden patch of spider veins on my upper right thigh for years now.  I can't blame it on being pregnant or on even getting older (although I'm sure they didn't help) because I started to notice them in my twenties.  As time went on, my patch started to grow and expand. Admittedly, they didn't stop me from wearing skirts and shorts or even bathing suits, but over the past couple of years, I had become more aware and self-conscious of them.  Being fair skinned only enhanced their appearance too.  Tanning (the little color I do get) and even tanning balms and sprays only covered them slightly.  So my veiny legs were now apart of my appearance.  Until yesterday.

Before going on, let me say that more fortunately for me than being able to have this procedure done, is that my legs are healthy!  Prior to the sclerotherapy, I had first visited a doctor and had a sonogram done on my legs.  The doctor somberly told me the "good" news and I should have taken that as a sign that he was not the doctor for me because... I was happy that my legs were healthy!!!! even if that meant that if I followed through on the procedure it was purely for cosmetic purposes (and insurance won't cover that).

I decided to swallow that vain pill and went for it.  I pulled off about 12 cotton balls this morning, so my sclerotherapy included 12 injections.  My (new) doctor told me the needles were about the size used for acupuncture.  The biggest difference is that there's a burning sensation from the saline being injected into the veins.  She used a laser for some of the smaller veins near the surface and I think that was more annoying than the injections.  But overall, the procedure took about 30 minutes and it was completely doable.  I was even able to drive myself home afterwards.  The most annoying part now is that I have to wear compression socks for 3 days.

Before...

After...

Before...

After...

Initially, the bruising looks pretty bad, but I was pleasantly surprised this morning because I bruise very easily and I was expected my legs to be black and blue all over.  The best part is, is that I can already see a difference!!!

Anyone who knows me knows that I am a rather simple, natural person.  I do wear makeup.  I do dress well.  But I don't overdo it and I am not egotistical or self absorbed or obsessed with  my looks. However, my legs were aging me (even more so than the lines on my forehead) and... why not?  I took a noninvasive route that didn't jeopardize my health in any way.  In fact, I feel like I need to make sure to get the rest of my body in better shape to match what will soon be my more youthful legs.  

How far are you willing to go to retain your youthful appearance?

My Day to Day Go To's

Here it is... my day to day arsenal that helps me to feel clean, pretty, and young!  Everything is a Lemongrass Spa product... except some hair products (which we don't make) and the coconut oil in the tupperware container in the back (I'll explain later).

 Let's start with the my daily facial regiment.  I am so happy that LGS finally made the facial kits customizable which will allow you to pick and choose the products that are best for you and you will get the kit discount instead of the al la carte prices (see bottom of post for more info).

1.  Cleanser:   I use the cleansing gel for normal skin.  I have noticed a diminish in black heads and other blemishes since I started using it 2 years ago.  I am  very happy with it.

2.  Toner:  As I have gotten older, I have noticed that I have more redness in my face, especially near the nose area.  LGS has just the remedy for that, The Prebiotic Facial Mist.  It has eliminated the redness and smooths out the skin tone.  This may be my most used and most underrated product.  I really just love it!

3.  Moisturizer:  I use the Face Creme with Botanicals for normal skin.  What I love most about this moisturizer is that it is not heavy or greasy.  After giving it a moment to absorb into the skin, you won't even be able to tell that you have it on.  It's a great feeling, especially in the hot, summer months.

Click here for reasons why you don't want to skin the moisturizer!
http://www.belledskincare.com/blog.php?d=35

4.  Eyes:  I currently have the hydrating eye creme, which does a great job keeping my eye area from becoming dry.  I am especially happy that I will now be able to create my own facial kit because my normal kit didn't come with the original blend with cucumber and witch hazel.  My eye area is very sensitive and I have dark circles below my eyes.  Witch hazel is great for puffiness and dark circles!

5.  Serum:  I use the Green Tea Antioxidant Serum.  It leaves my skin feeling super soft!  What I really love about this product is that it doubles as a primer!  That's right, its a two for one!

6.  Exfoliator:  You should exfoliate your skin 1-2 times per week.  I use the pomegranate exfoliator for normal skin.  It is so gentle and is smell so good!  I have to admit though that I am super excited to try out our new charcoal exfoliator! It's good for all skin types, so those of you with sensitive or dry skin, we have products for you too!

7.  Detoxify:  We live in a dirty, dirty world and our face is exposed more that any other area of our bodies.  It is suggested that we detoxify once a week.   I have the pomegranate mask for normal skin and it is one of my favorite products!  The mask is gentle and does not harden.  It feels like a thick pudding and smells good enough to eat too.  Even though I have been using this for 2 years, every time I use it, it is just like the first time.  I always notice an immediate difference in the radiance in my skin.

So there you have it... my facial regiment.  What's yours?

For a clearer image, go to http://www.ourlemongrassspa.com/AMYMARIE/content/Product_Catalog.aspx#lemongrass2017/page/6-7

The LGS facial line is a great investment in your face and your health!  It won't break the bank, and these products LAST a long time!  My kit last about 8 months; money well spent.

There's alot of information in this post, therefore I will continue to share the rest of my daily products in the next post.

Until then...
Stay Fresh and Fabulous!!

What's in My Shower?

It has been nearly 2 years since I signed up with Lemongrass Spa to be a consultant.  So I thought that this week I'd share all of my beauty care products so that you can get a genuine glimpse into how Lemongrass Spa has influenced me and the products that I use on a daily basis.  Today, I decided to start with the shower!

As you can see, I am a simple person.  I don't use many products but what you do see here are the following...

1.  LGS's Oatmeal Milk and Honey Bar Soap:  I LOVE LGS's bar soaps, especially the lavender and the frosted cranberry.  However, since I found out that I have eczema, I have switched to the OM&H soap.  It is so sweet and yummy too, there was no sacrifice made!  I am however super excited to try our newest soap, Midnight Orchid!  First off, the bar alone is gorgeous and the scent is... mmmm.   Bliss!

P.S.  I will be giving away 1 FREE bar of soap.  You can enter by commenting on this blog post OR by checking out my FB page at https://www.facebook.com/freshnfabulous/ and leaving a comment on the contest post for the soap.  Don't delay, the winner will be chose this Wednesday, 3/1/17.

(Each bar of soap is $7.50.  Buy more and save... 3 for $21.)

2.  LGS's Body Polish:  I have both mandarin orange and midnight orchid body polish in my shower.  The mandarin orange is a refreshing scent which is great to help wake you up in the morning.  The midnight orchid is what I would use if I was going out or if I was planning on snuggling up with John, lol.  All of our body polishes are exfoliate gently and leave your skin feeling velvety smooth.  They are also great to use prior to shaving (no need for any type of shaving cream if you do!).

(Each jar is $17.  Buy more and save $6... 3 for $45.)


3. LGS's Cleansing Gel for Normal Skin:  I do use a full facial LGS regiment.  You'll see the rest in my next post.  I just happen to keep the cleansing gel in the shower.  It keeps my skin feeling soft and clean!

(Each 4 oz. container is $13.  However, we have a variety of bundles and varieties for different skin care types.)

4.  LGS's Lavender Bath Crystals:  It's not often that I take a bath, but when I do, you better believe that the lavender bath crystals and a glass of wine join me!  I am a huge lavender fan and love how it helps to just calm me.  On those extra special days where I need just that, I will close up the drain and pour in some crystals as I take a shower.

(Each 16 oz. jar is just $12.  Buy more and save... 2 for $20.)

5.  LOMA Shampoo and Conditioner:  You caught me!!  I was getting my hair done in December and my beautician used this natural shampoo and conditioner on me.  I loved the smell and I loved that it was made with natural products.   Since I knew my LGS products were almost out, I decided to give this a try and I bought it.  What I found was that, like LGS's shampoo, it didn't get bubbly and lather well.  I know that this is true for natural hair products, but I haven't actually used any other than LGS.  So I was happy that I didn't find this particular brand to be any better than LGS.  When I finally do run out, LGS S & C will be back in my shower!

(Lemongrass Spa sells shampoo and conditioner individually or in sets.  A 2 oz. set is $9, an 8 oz. set is $20, and a 16 oz. set is $35.)

Sooooo... what's in your shower?  Anything Lemongrass you are interested in learning more about? 

Check out our catalog here.... http://www.ourlemongrassspa.com/AMYMARIE/content/Product_Catalog.aspx